Becoming a parent does not mean abandoning the life you had become becoming parents. Think about how many mothers also have a profession they want to cultivate. Balancing family and work is certainly not easy, especially when you have young children. Here is some advance from the experts at Chicco about how a working mother can manage her various commitments.
Balancing work and family: advice from the experts
First of all, it is important to remember that being parents does not mean being "perfect", as it also means learning about and accepting our limits and our shortcomings. Here is some useful advice to keep in mind that will help you balance work and family as best as possible:
- Remember that emotions are contagious: if the parent is calm, also the baby will be calm. A child who lives in a world of cuddles and affection will soon be able to give it back to mum and dad.
- When you see your child after work, avoid questions such as "what did you do?" “how did things go?” “what did you eat?” which can seem too direct and interrogative; it is best for the parent to first talk about what they did during their day, then afterwards the child will feel free to talk about his or hers spontaneously.
- When returning home with your child, it is very important to guarantee a pleasant period of time where you will listen to and play with your child (about 40 minutes) without rushing, putting aside whatever you have to do in the house and avoiding distractions – such as your mobile phone, for example. Once this period of time has passed, the child will be able to be autonomous. It is important not to forget about this moment, even if your day was particularly difficult: in these cases, you can concentrate on more calm activities, such as watching a cartoon together or reading a book, without being afraid that your child will see how you are feeling. How we say things is often more important than what we say.
- Eliminate the sense of guilt of parents who are less present in the life of their child because of work. A simple aid that we can all use is to play a game talking about the "high points and low points" of the day. When the family comes together, such as for dinner, it is useful to have time for everyone to spontaneously talk about the best thing that happened that day (the high point of the day) and the worst thing that happened (the low point of the day). In this case, it is best for the adults to talk about theirs first, so that the children feel freer to share theirs spontaneously. This "game" will help the parents reconcile the fact of being at work and not at home with their child and, at the same time, will also help children who are more timid and reserved to express their emotions and talk about themselves.